The closer and deeper your relationship with someone, the more things you’ll have to say. From the trivial details of everyday life to the accumulation of emotions and thoughts, there are feelings, ideas, and information you want to share precisely because this person is important to you.
How you choose to convey your thoughts to someone you care about can greatly influence the future of your relationship. What’s the best way to express yourself? Are there things better left unsaid? While it’s difficult to make clear distinctions, if you make decisions when your mind is at peace, you’ll avoid outcomes that might cause you distress. Before deciding what and how to communicate with someone important, consider the following:
Imagine a scenario where this important person is not in your life. What would you want to do in their absence? If they were no longer there, what would you want to say to others?
For example, if you want to ask them to help with household chores, consider how you would feel if this person were no longer around. You wouldn’t be able to ask them for help, and since you don’t wish to ask anyone else, you might choose to say nothing at all.
This isn’t to say that relying on others is wrong or that you must do everything alone. But when thinking about what and how to communicate with someone important, imagining their absence can help you avoid emotional responses that might lead to less favorable outcomes.
If you feel so burdened, stressed, or unhappy with something that you need to ask someone for help, it might be better not to do it at all. Instead, focus on things you genuinely want to do and can enjoy within your own limits. Doing something reluctantly or with frustration is a choice to bring discomfort into your own life.
Continuously making choices that bring peace to your mind is the only way to nurture a relationship with someone important that will be beneficial to you.
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